Pagi tadi, satu sms masuk ke my husband handphone. "Akhi Fuaad Kassim kembali ke rahmatullah pagi tadi".
Fuaad Kassim. Itu bukankah suami Cik Nor. I thot they were in Mekah performing Haji. Meninggal kat mana ni? Mekah? Sri Pulai?Bangi?. Peningnya nak figure out.
I called Cik Nor. The first sound I heard is a sedu-sedan. She cried. I remained strong. Dia kata dia balik Haji snin lepas. Mlm tadi arwah di Sri Pulai, now she is on the way to Sri Pulai. Dia pun baru dapat tahu.
I told her to bertenang. Sebelum saya breakdown, saya cakap saya akan call semula and ask her to bersabar a lot. I just hate any of friends saw me crying ke apa ke.
Cik Nor is my friend. Much older than me. We were buddies masa di Hitachi dulu. She is the second wife to arwah. They were married about 4 years ago. I was among the few selected people yang dijemput to witness the nikah ceremony. I supported her decision to marry arwah walaupun saya memang sedia tahu yang arwah dah berkeluarga dan tak ada apa yang salah atau celanya isteri dan keluarga yang ada. Saya tak pernah suruh dia fikir dua tiga kali about eing second wife. Saya tak pernah persoalkan apa-apa dalam perkara ni. As a friend, I want my friend to be happy. Itu pilihan dia untuk jadi second wife ke apa ke. I respected her decision. Siapalah kita nak persoalkan orang lain punya hati dan perasaan.
You have to meet Cik Nor and arwah in person, then you will know they get married bukan
kerana hawa nafsu atau harta atau nama. Arwah ikhlas, my friend also ikhlas. Dalam perkara macam ni saya agak realistik. Kena tengok keadaan dan situasi. Bukan dalam semua situasi poligami tu adalah perkara yang tidak baik.
Fast forward. She moved to Bangi and set-up an Islamic kindergarten, similar to mine. We keep in touch. Lepas tu, saya sibuk dengan urusan saya and she also busy with hers.
Bila saya glance thru her blog yang dikongsi bersama dengan arwah, it seemed they have a woinderful marriage life. Short, but sweet and meaningful. My friend loves him so much. I am a married woman, so melalui ayat yang my friend tulis, she is really contented with what she has now.
To my friend Cik Nor, hang in there. Be strong and may you find solace soon. He is now in the good hands of Allah.
Rejoice the moments you and arwah had together. Be thankful that you had a chance to spend some of your mornings, afternoons, evenings and nights with this wonderful man who has a heart of gold. Trust me, you never lost him but he will live forever in your heart.
Al-Fatihah to Allayarham Ir Ahmad Fuaad Kassim.
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